A love-hate-love relationship (View 2)

At first it was easy,

then it became a little challenging.

Things had slowed down.

A little later with a spurt of will,

he picked up pace and continued,

seeking to be diligent;

the same and different.

It felt harder.

First she loved him;

then she hated him.

And then again she loved him

and hated him after that;

even more so a little later.

Then she loved him again;

coming to hate him eventually some time later.

And finally, she loved him,

accepting her choice.

Demanding persistence, he gave it that;

until he hit a brick wall

and kind of got quenched.

He came back again to climb over

in a breakthrough;

going on for a while

and slowly getting weary.

Finally he let go to say,

“I love you anyways.”

Because the world…

Back away
Fight another day
Would it sway your way again
Because the world has moved away

Take the step and remain
Change the time and refrain
Things will not stay the same
Because the world has moved again

It’s the dance that we play
I lead and she trails
If she leads I race
Because the world is a moving train

Not a ride we should take
If we want to win the race
Take the pain of the narrow way
Because the world would lead astray

Holding on to these rails
Down a hill up a mountain
Where is the level way
Because the world has a say

Procrastination is Laziness Too …

Procrastination, I’ve been told, is characteristic of extreme perfectionism (resulting in disgruntled perfectionists), low self-esteem, fear of success, and a fear of failure. One other fear needs mentioning, and that is laziness. Procrastination is a laziness because it is diametrically opposed to diligence.

All the above stated ‘roots’ of procrastination have the common thread named fear. So that the following quote might be appropriate: “… who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.” [Hebrews 2:15]

So we can say what laziness leads to by rephrasing the above quote to, ‘through laziness were all their lifetime subject to bondage.’

That probably answers a few questions.


Tomorrow can be any day tomorrow

I had, for some reason, called the day after a Monday a Monday. So I asked myself, “what should go on tomorrow?” Myself replied, “tomorrow is Wednesday!” Then, I said to myself, “tomorrow can be any day if we look far enough; there’s a Tuesday still to come.” Meanwhile, what’s for this Tuesday has got to go on—now. And this is it.

Today is the day that is
Now is the time that’s real
Where else would one be

Tomorrow is still to come
Yesterday has passed away
Today is the day to live

Between that which is as dead
And that which is as yet
Lives that which must for best

Beyond the resolution: to better or worse, richer or poorer, until….

“Pop psychology tells us that we are all victims, if we’re messed up it is because of our environment, or because we were abused as children, or we were socially or economically deprived, or any number of other excuses. We bear no responsibility for our actions or how we turned out. No matter what happens, it is always someone else’s fault—our husband, our wife, our children, our boss—anyone except ourselves.”
Quote attributed to Dr Miles Munroe.

Who is responsible for the final outcome, and when is the outcome final if ever so.

She gets a pony ride because she feels bad about being deprived; deprived because she grew up poor. So she committed crimes as a result; she became the ‘juvenile delinquent.’ To make her feel better now about her upbringing, to lure her away from the addiction, she gets a pony ride. Ivan Pavlov would say that society would get conditioned to bad behaviour if such rewards are the norm.

Once upon a time, in one English council, the Councillor proposed a reduction in late night taxi fares for scantily clad or sensually dressed women to minimize the risk of sexual harassment. I guess the spirit was to get them home quickly, safely and cheaply, since taking the cheaper public transport involved more alone walk time and potential outdoor male visual contact. Someone joked: “hello cab company please hurry a cab here, I’m a pretty girl, alone, outside in a very short pretty dress with my back exposed, I need a quick cheap lift.” O dear! There must have been, in that region, a ‘significant’ number of unruly and opportunistic men, expressing little restraint and respect for woman, going about late at night, fueled, likely on high spirits. The other side of the coin could possibly be that the stimuli were so strong, the temptations so great, that many ‘normal’ night crawling ‘normal’ men would be ensnared beyond their minds and be tempted to act animally, having opportunity. Which is more likely?

What one person was concerned about was the the kind of thinking behind such proposed solutions as above and those who pursued it. Fundamentals! He said.

And then, how easy is it to leave an addiction? Procrastination is much easier done—for the procrastinator, his norm. See http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html and http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/11/how-to-beat-procrastination.html for an interesting picture of procrastination and dealing with it.

“It is easy to include, by accident, perverse incentives that promote and reward damaging behaviour. Similarly, it is easy to reward short term behaviour at the expense of long term success.” “…the challenges of the … century can … be met by … stakeholders playing their crucial roles in demanding, specifying and operating systems that work.”
From the booklet, Creating systems that work: Principles of engineering systems for the 21st century. Editors: Dr Chris Elliott, Professor Peter Deasley.

Vote engineers into elected government offices, if they would deign to contest. They seem to much prefer modeling and simulation (the interview) to the dignities or otherwise of seeking electoral positions (the campaign).

Make a new habit? “He is of age: ask him, he will speak concerning himself.” (From the book of John.)

‘Atrophy of vigilance’ refers to the idea that organisational performance will degrade or slacken with time. The vigilant Procter and Gamble, however, have rebranded/relaunched a particular successful soap product more than 80 times. An excellent company according to Thomas J. Peters and Robert H. Waterman Jr.

There’s something about having a bath; everyday refreshment.