A love-hate-love relationship (View 2)

At first it was easy,

then it became a little challenging.

Things had slowed down.

A little later with a spurt of will,

he picked up pace and continued,

seeking to be diligent;

the same and different.

It felt harder.

First she loved him;

then she hated him.

And then again she loved him

and hated him after that;

even more so a little later.

Then she loved him again;

coming to hate him eventually some time later.

And finally, she loved him,

accepting her choice.

Demanding persistence, he gave it that;

until he hit a brick wall

and kind of got quenched.

He came back again to climb over

in a breakthrough;

going on for a while

and slowly getting weary.

Finally he let go to say,

“I love you anyways.”

No longer looking to fall in love

She had felt so in love with him
It seemed like the feeling was mutual
They had a flow like soulmates
As one before they became one

One indeed afterwards in the closest bond
Their marriage seemed certain to come
But one day life hit her hard—bad
Her heart was cracked by the man of her heart
The meaning inherent in her feelings was left hanging
No route to any end, dangling
She wanted to die—not literally

The story she had lived in was getting unwritten.
A beautiful story had come to frozen
Nooooooo!!
That wouldn’t cover the effusion of emotion
It was much too much to hold
it had to show

No longer looking to fall in love;
All she wanted was sense and decency.
That rapport and spontaneity that consumed her previously ceased to mean anything
It had lost its appeal after the jolt—the jilt

A man came up to her one day
He seemed okay….
No flow and glow
Yet good as okay would go
Sane and decent
She said yes when he proposed

There were no bells and whistles
She wasn’t swept of her feet
Not like she was into him
Feet firmly on the ground and eyes wide open

She had said yes and moved on
Satisfied with her choice
She would give her life but not her heart.
It had been wrapped in a cold blanket

It was a while…
When one day she realised she was liking him especially
A love with emotion was budding
And a warm feeling inside growing

Two kinds of rules

Rules that others make for us
Rules that we’ve made for ourselves

Rules we follow with our heads
Rules we follow from our hearts

Rules we do not care to honour
Rules we care not to dishonour

Rules that are made because they could be broken
Rules that exist because they should be followed

Rules that are because truth is
Rules that are because truth is ignored

PS: It would seem that at every moment there are only two kinds of rules. And only one of two ways to do per time.

What’s the algorithm behind the behaviour

Algorithms are data processors
If the data is bad: garbage out
If the algorithm is bad: garbage out

Behaviour is the result of an algorithm
It takes in data and information
And produces garbage or wisdom

What’s the algorithm behind the behaviour

The teacher opens the door

The teacher opens the door
Interesting that the door is open
Do I like the teacher, or not
The presentation and delivery
What a door
And the door frame
Okay, let’s enter
But through another door

That’s what it feels like sometimes, some days, with my students. As it appears, getting us to ‘know’ requires that we go through several other rooms in class (or life) that we find more interesting or easier to enter into—whether or not directly relevant to the teacher’s teaching end. All in order for us to develop the mind that finally enters the room the teacher meant for us to enter from the beginning.

“Knowing and doing are two different things, …”

“… especially when it comes to pleasure.” An ‘o so true’ statement by Levitt and Dubner in Superfreakonomics.

It got me thinking…

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it comes to [a] pleasure:

Have you ever known the pleasure of pride or ignorance, or of ‘happiness’ or an addiction, etc, to prevent some one (I, for instance) from seeing/following the ‘truth?’ Likely yes, at least on television.

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it comes to [a] pain:

Have you ever known the pain of future responsibility or success, or of failure or ridicule, or of losing a pleasure or a happiness, etc, to prevent some one (I, for imstance) from doing the ‘truth?’

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when ….
[Complete the statement for you, then move—on/off—as you please.]

And you might find that knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it’s not inconvenient for them to be so.

So, if I want change, it would be helpful to make it inconvenient for knowing and doing to be different.

Debts for which I am credited

Debt to spouse, by marriage

Debt to children, by parenthood

Debt to parents, by sonship

Debt to friends, by friendship

Debt to self, for Christ’s sake

Debt to man, for the dignity inherent in mankind

Debt to God, for the dignity inherent in God