To have or to be

To have the happiness of having
To enjoy the joy of being
Are you because you have
Have you because you are

The Happiness of Contentment

Less bright and loud
More strong and deep
Neither open nor hidden
There lingering
A happiness
Me contented

‘I love you’ rings in my head

Thinking of how many times I’ve heard them

Those words, they appear in me now and again

Whether you’re here or some where

‘I love you,’ rings in my head

“Knowing and doing are two different things, …”

“… especially when it comes to pleasure.” An ‘o so true’ statement by Levitt and Dubner in Superfreakonomics.

It got me thinking…

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it comes to [a] pleasure:

Have you ever known the pleasure of pride or ignorance, or of ‘happiness’ or an addiction, etc, to prevent some one (I, for instance) from seeing/following the ‘truth?’ Likely yes, at least on television.

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it comes to [a] pain:

Have you ever known the pain of future responsibility or success, or of failure or ridicule, or of losing a pleasure or a happiness, etc, to prevent some one (I, for imstance) from doing the ‘truth?’

Knowing and doing are two different things, especially when ….
[Complete the statement for you, then move—on/off—as you please.]

And you might find that knowing and doing are two different things, especially when it’s not inconvenient for them to be so.

So, if I want change, it would be helpful to make it inconvenient for knowing and doing to be different.

Contented

She has travelled wide
I’ve only lived in town
I’m happy for her
And me, contented

My car is old
And sometimes I walk
I am happy for the mechanic
And me, contented

My wife is awesome
She’s my wife
I am happy with her
Contented

​Grateful — November 2017

When you see another rise
Maybe you played a part
Even with a cheer or a prayer
Or maybe with nothing to count
You rejoice and are glad
Glad for the good that has come out
Grateful for the success of another

You formed happiness in me
Sharing the joy in you
Gratitude grew inside
Stirred by the news

I am grateful
Happy
Joyful

A ​Hierarchy of Happiness

‘Was chatting with a friend about happiness some time ago. So I thought to reflect on why we get happy, and why our happiness might persist. This piece tries to addresses the first question directly.  

I identify four kinds of happiness, speak of a happiness personality test, and end with a hierarchy of happiness (Maslow style). I’ve used happiness here as the pleasant emotional sensation or feeling that comes with, and because of gratification or the anticipation of it.  

The happiness for enjoyment:- Because of activity and participation; as getting a fix. E.g travelling, dancing, knitting, drugs, sex, drink, sports, games, marriage, etc.  

Could she still be happy without enjoyments?  

The happiness for possession:- Because I received, have, or own some one or some thing. E.g, cars, connection(s), gifts, girlfriends, friends, boyfriends, experiences checked off the checklist, celebrity status, spouse, friend, degrees, trophies, houses, etc.  

Could she still be happy without possessions and enjoyments?  

The happiness for events:- Because something that pleased you happened. E.g. birthdays, weddings, news of passing exams, visitors, and general good news, D. Trump wins? etc.  

Could she still be happy without pleasant outcomes, possessions and enjoyments?  

The happiness for achievement:- Because I finished or was rewarded. E.g. degrees, awards, promotion, meeting goals, hitting targets, putting your kids through school, marriage, wedding, etc.  

Could she still be happy without achievements, pleasant news, possessions, and enjoyments?  

Looking at our happinesses, which of these four has supplied most of them at various periods in our lives. 

According to your lifestyle, if you were to rank these in order of power, permanence, or personal significance, how would you arrange them — top to bottom. That tells us where we are, in a way. Or, perhaps, where we might want to ‘improve.’ Like a happiness personality test.  

Why did we order them the way we did? Nature, or nurture? I’d say that nurture started it all, with ‘life happening’ as an accomplice, and volition plastering it on nature. 

Finally, considering the foregoing, and following the pattern of Maslow’s hierarchy or needs, here is my hierarchy of happiness. (First choice: PosEvAchEn; second choice: PoAchEvEn.) The first choice, in order of need:  

Possessions:- Happy for what you have, that you have, or that you are. 

Events:- Happy that some thing happened.  

Achievements:- Happy that you made something happen.  

Enjoyments:- Happy that you participated in something that tickled you.