I wanted the girl

I wanted the girl
She was a bird
She would have no perch
For more than a third

I wanted the bird
‘Go with her where she went
To perch anywhere
There to make our nest

I wanted the girl
Smart lioness princess
Let me be your den
And make your soul my rest

I wanted the bird
With me for all our years
Her only perch
Where she made her best

I wanted the girl
She would not rest
She had not let herself
Make our I’s disappear

I wanted the bird
She has the eagles’ crest
‘Made us a pair
And? We’re just friends

Life goes more than breasts
We are creatures of the air
Ethereal
I wanted the girl

Lay Thinking on ADHD (Part 1)

First remove the ‘D’ so that it’s the description of a tendency without the connotation of disease, illness, or even something to be treated. The persons attitude, simply, persistently, borders on an unconventional. (To them, we might be the ones ‘unnormal’ or unusual.)

Its character, like many others, is a statement of love and pain.
Love: the face of God. He runs towards it.
Pain: a face of fear. He runs away from it. We escape some noble joys that must come through pain and discomfort—like with childbirth.

What puts a baby on this path? Somehow grooming him to think that his attention needs to persistently be shifted physically and/or mentally for him to be at peace? Perhaps augmented by feelings of inadequacy, or ‘missing out’ when other things might be going on. (Guesses, guesses: where science begins.) Which asks the question whether it starts from the womb or is developed/learned after birth.

Even if the origins are chemical, the brain is plastic, and the soul drives synapses; people get better regardless of origins.

They say it’s more prevalent with boys. Girls concentrate because they play with dolls; they’re living, caring, in a story they’re making, so they’d stay for longer.

ADH is really more movement than attention; there’s an itch somewhere.
‘Tis more about interest, albeit dynamically shifting, than illness;
An intriguing stream of consciousness acted out or inside.
Call it H for hyperactivity of mind—and body—if you like.

Shifting Attention Algorithm SAA():
Loop{
The grass becomes less green once I’m on it;
    Break condition? No;
This becomes burdensome fast;
    Break condition? No;
That looks more exciting;
    Break condition? No;
We go there.
    Break condition? No;
}

This is the algorithm that should be reconfigured.

ADH stems from a superpower—a certain energy—we need to learn to redirect and harness. A hint at giftedness in an unconventional way.

It’s a big issue how to help, we hear
To control, drug ’em, tie ’em….
To redirect, lead ’em guide ’em ….
Perhaps, not that easy; indeed easier said.
I don’t know what to do.
Love is patient, Love is kind, Love is persistent … [1 Corinthians 13:4-8].

PS:
Part 2 was published a week before part 1.
Love is something that will always exist.
Thinking to remove the grasses, make things all grey, remove delineations… Get a so-determined extremely ADH person alone in an almost empty room, a still place, like of a monastery, to engage in one activity, with a deadline or a prize. What might happen with practice?

Lay Thinking on ADHD (Part 2)

If ADH comes out of a normal functioning brain, then drugging it to reduce that expression likely amounts to dulling the brain, unless drugging can lead to rewiring without negative network effects or stunted abilities, however temporary. It likely also means that soul treatment and physical activity should be more effective long term because they could lead to the necessary rewiring to reflect more controlled attention present activity (The ideal?). Afterall, the brain is plastic, they say.

Even if the attention is deficit
It still sits on something
Wandering every minute
Much shorter than is meet

To help the mind focus and practice discipline, shift the random movements of an unmotivated mind to directed movements of the body so that the mind concentrates on achieving the teleos of an activity. Poco a poco, we go forward.

Thinking dance, art, crafts, drama, and sports, instruments? Something that stirs the person to stay with it, thus giving him practice of deliberate concentration. Why does it do good? (I assume it does.) Because they become involved, fellow actors and creators, like the girl playing with her doll—she concentrates for long.

What about academics
Natural born explorers, apparently
(‘Meant to say researchers)
But we can learn anything
Staggered achievement deadlines help symptoms like procrastination’s
Plus a little encouragement and directional feedback
Good respected friends and models are very important
Isolation therefore, like sin

To train them to deal reasonably with that which is as a fear of staying still.
Because it feels like a certain sort of fear in the extreme—maybe of an aversion for missing out on some next thing, which leads to an attraction for it—leads to what some have termed ADH. Maybe it’s a fear to find out that the end was less than could be. And I won’t be surprised if the Neuroscience suggests an implicit fear response to not jumping about a bit more than is said to be normal. It could also be a love response. Both powerful motivators.

How do we deal with fears and phobias. The wisdom of the sages and science seems to come down to graduated experience of that feared, at graduated intervals and/or at graduated distances, with improvements observed. How many willing people would make it alone, in good time.

Change the activities little by little periodically to wean them and bring them into more ‘serious’ stuff as they grow, more and more, little by little.

So some say its easier to learn via kinesthetics
Some say it’s a myth
Better, material over method?
Presentation matters, representation, maybe more

If something is sufficiently boring, most of us may demonstrate ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). ‘Disorder’ suddenly sounds out of place.

‘Interesting’ matters to attention; so does motivation. even if not based on interest.
[Looking away unto our faith’s Princely-leader and perfecter, Jesus,—who, in consideration of the joy lying before him, endured a cross, despising shame! Hebrews 12:2. Self-inspired carrots were all, here.]

PS:
Part 1 ‘was’ published about a week after part 2.

Children and the Not Impossible

I was seated on the rail, and the little boy asked me to do a back flip to the other side of the stairs. Gosh, why should he think that? And I said it wasn’t safe to do so. Of course, I wouldn’t add that I couldn’t. What would he think? Then he answered that the power rangers could. Oh, television, making kids believe the not impossible but dangerous thing again. So I told him that that was the power rangers, that it was television, and that they weren’t real. He got quiet for a moment, and then turned to face the others who would believe the power rangers fantastic. I envied him.

What drives me?

Isn’t it better to be love driven rather than fear driven.
For instance, you could say that because you don’t steal doesn’t mean that you’re kleptophobic. (In the broadest sense that it could be understood, a fear of stealing.) Rather, it is that you choose to be content with what’s yours and to respect others, their right of ownership and their freedom to retain it. You say that’s love; no fear in it.