To be aware and mindful of our feelings and thoughts as they evolve, is, in part, to answer some of these questions. To channel our thoughts and feelings where we choose, is also, in part, to answer some of these questions.
What is sex
What is it for
What does it mean
If it means anything
Does sexual intimacy amount to sex
Is it an act of marriage
Is sex like a recreational sport
Would it mean anything to us
Is it as a hobby
Would it mean something to us
What could it do to one’s mind and will
What could it do to one’s feelings
What does it do to one’s body
God, why all the sweetness with sex
Why is there a link with conception
Is the sex of adultery the same as the sex of marriage
Is premarital sex different from marital sex
Is sex just sex in any context
Does one suffer loss for being single and virgin
Isn’t that virtue
What does sex say
Would it say any thing of one
They haven’t had sex in 45 years
Isn’t sex necessary in marriage
Is it spice we can live without
And there’s more.
Do we see sex as worship
Is it sacred
Inquiring minds want answers. Tempted souls need answers.
How do we handle our fallibility?
What is true even where we know only in part?
We may find that we have no answers to some of the questions. We may find that we can’t precisely say why we’ve chosen some of our answers. We may have defaulted to some authority’s opinions and adopted them as ours. If you find that you want to adopt an authority, you’d probably discover the most stable and consistent answers in some principles elaborated in the Bible. You’ll find scenes from real life soaps: Hosea asked by God to marry a wife of porneia, David stealing an officer’s wife (after he had slept with her and got her pregnant) and sending him to his death etc. You’ll find wise sayings in the Proverbs, and sweetly intimate words between lovers in Songs of Solomon. King Solomon himself was seemingly sexually prolific, with 700 wives and 300 concubines. The way the Bible is able to answer all the questions of life in a finite volume is by dwelling on principles. The principles, in my opinion, are more important than what seem to be the straight answers, particularly in the Old Testament. The New Testament highlights and explains a number of those principles and derives direct answers from them.